How to Improve Self Esteem: A Simple Three-Step Strategy
If you've ever wanted to know how to improve self-esteem and be more confident, you might be surprised to learn that there is a simple three-step strategy to improve how you feel about you.
As a personal development coach, I have utilized this strategy with many clients, and can attest to its effectiveness in increasing self-esteem in both men and women. The three steps are as follows,
1. Develop a New Vocabulary:
This doesn't mean that you need to begin memorizing arcane words, but rather, you need to begin speaking about yourself, others and the world in general in a different way.
To start, remove words that represent doubt or insecurity from your vocabulary. Why is this important? The language we use sends a clear signal to our subconscious mind, and determines how we will see ourselves and the world around us.
When we began using positive words, that imply persistence, capability and steadiness of character, those words begin to affect our level of self-esteem.
2. Stand Taller Than You Are
The second step is to change your physiology and how you carry yourself. Most people have a habit of slouching and not standing up to their full height. This has a subtle, but noticeable, affect on your self-esteem. Besides which, it makes you appear less confident to others.
Begin a new habit of standing taller than you are. Stand straight and hold it your chin up and eyes open. This may feel somehow "wrong" when you first begin trying it, but with time it will become a natural part of your personality.
Your posture, and especially the position of your chin, is very important. Most people let their chin fall down somewhere near their chest. When you raise the chin (stick it way out there in the air) it sends a signal to others that you are self-assured and have high self-esteem.
More importantly, simply raising your chin and standing with a straight posture sends a signal to your own subconscious mind. Remember, your mind takes its cues from your body. When you began developing a confident posture, the mind will naturally get in alignment with this and increase feelings of confidence and self-esteem.
3. Slow Things Down a Bit
Finally, the absolute easiest way to begin projecting a more confident, self-assured appearance is to slow down your movements and speech slightly. You don't have to go to any extremes with this; simply slow your rate of talking, walking, moving and other actions just a bit.
By slowing down your speech and behavior, you give the appearance of doing things very deliberately. This comes across to others as self-assurance, and it sends a clear signal of high self-esteem to your mind. A signal that will be replicated in your thoughts and attitude.
While some of these new habits take a little time to develop, it is not uncommon for individuals to begin "feeling" more confident after just a few days of using this three-step strategy.
As always, the best time to get started is right now. Begin with step one by becoming aware of the words you used to describe yourself and others. At the same time, start adjusting your posture to stand up straight, and poke out that chin a little bit. It may feel strange at first, but don't worry, you'll get used to it.
Finally, began slowing down your mannerisms and speech just a little to complete your new high self-esteem makeover. Healthy self-esteem is necessary to succeed in the world we live in. And these simple steps show you how to improve self-esteem and personal power, without years of struggling.